Grief & Loss

Have you recently lost someone or experienced a death in the family? Maybe it was years ago and now, though it feels “out of nowhere”, it is hitting you hard. Perhaps it is not an actual person you are mourning but rather the loss of an identity, a job, a dream, a relationship. You might find yourself struggling to fall asleep at night or to take care of yourself, your mind filled with what ifs, and consumed by anger at and questioning of a higher power: “How can the world be good when something like this happened to me?” It also might feel extremely fresh – you find yourself crying constantly and feeling overwhelmed with pervasive sadness, anger, depression, and yearning to have your loved one back.

Grief is one of the most challenging seasons we will walk through in life. And, none of us get out unscathed. We ALL will lose someone or something very dear to us. It will feel unbearable, awful, unbeatable at times. You are not alone in this, and you also can get through this. What is important when grieving is having support. Though your grief will likely have periods of much needed isolation and introspection, it is also helpful to not walk it entirely alone. A therapist can be a helpful support for you in a time and place that friends and family are not always available. They might be grieving too, they might have other issues to care for, or you might simply not feel comfortable. Your therapist has experience and education relevant to grief that will help him or her recognize signs of complicated grief.

What can you expect from receiving treatment at The Trauma & Healing Foundation? We believe healing occurs through connection, so we strive to create a warm, safe, non-judgmental space in which you can connect and begin to process. For sone, processing happens on a verbal level – they do well talking with their therapist and thinking about their grief. The therapist will inquire, give prompts, and also leave space for you to freely “think out loud”.  Some will benefit from processing through art, journaling, or even E.M.D.R. We will address the past, present, and the future, and you will leave with an understanding of the psychology of grief and how it pertains to your individual loss.

If you are like most people, you likely have some concerns and questions about this process. Won’t it be really painful to talk about this? YES, yes it probably will be. But, pain DEMANDS to be felt and experienced – the further we push it away and avoid it, the more intensely it complicates our lives and envelops us. Know that, with the support of your therapist, you will process your grief in a way and at a speed that works for you. We will neither rush you nor ask you to conform to a formula – this is a highly individual process and we respect that. Rather than avoid the pain, we will work together in a way that is healing and tolerable.

If you find yourself needing support for your grief, contact us at 909-452-7684 or for more information.